If you are struggling in your relationship or in even having a relationship that you want…
Relationship is how two (or more) people are connected. When a woman and a man are in connection, each from their authentic selves, the right things happens for both separately and the relationship, resulting in a mutually satisfying relationship for both.
Trouble is, when a woman gets off track by being the “good mom and wife”, being the corporate employee in a career that no longer fulfills her, ignoring her body and health, being someone who one day she wakes up and doesn’t recognize any more, her relationship has taken on a different energy.
WHY is this?
Your relationship with yourself has changed.
When you are not being fulfilled by the roles you have chosen to take on or the career you have chosen for yourself, you will not be able to pretend anymore that you are happy.
Yes, it comes upon you gradually so you don’t even react.
Yes, energetically your partners feels it, even if he can’t put his finger on it.
Personally I don’t believe anyone has truly “lost” themselves and need to “find” themselves.
What has happened is the woman has grown into living from a pattern of operating in life that no longer serves her, and she feels lost, disconnected, and a growing sense of discontentment. Perfectly normal… but the results this is getting in her relationship is him pulling away.
She feels this and blames her discontent on him because he is pulling away, she doesn’t feel loved or closeness anymore.
When she finally gets him to go to counseling, the focus is on what the problem is… he doesn’t…. he won’t… I don’t feel…
That serves no one.
When you want to heal your relationship because you know you have a good man, it’s the small subtle changes the woman makes in herself that make the world of difference.
Doing more… of the wrong thing NEVER works. In fact, it creates more divide.
Talking more about the problem doesn’t work to bring him closer…. most of the time the problem talked about isn’t even the real problem...
No one can make you happy but yourself. No one is holding you in chains of misery but yourself.
Spinning in emotional chaos, trying more of the same ol’ same ol’, doing more to bring him back is not the answer.
When you are happy, you are far more attractive than when you are upset, needy, complaining, pretending. Wanting and expecting him to make you happy is codependency (I hate that word), it is turning over control to another person.
Living this way, you will never truly be or feel free.
You want to gain the freedom that comes when you can feel good no matter what is going on around you, no matter what anyone else says or does?
The truth is, you need to make yourself happy now in order to get the experience in life that you want in your relationship and your life.
If you aren’t happy now, you won’t be happy when…No one gets happy focusing on what’s missing or wrong. No one gets happy worrying about what if’s. No one gets anywhere just thinking with the same thoughts that created their current situation.
If you want more, you must become more (I didn’t say “do” more).
Is this the year you say yes to you, get the accountability and structure of support you know you need to make the changes you want?
Don’t you want to feel good again and be happy?
Of course you do. And I’m going to show you how. It’s not hard and it doesn’t take a long time.
It’s about awareness, and what I am going to show you will help you in all areas of your life. If you want to stop the emotional turmoil and feeling like crap, this is for you.
In my Feeling Good is a Choice Workshop, I teach you exactly what you need to know and do to become happy now and any other time you choose.
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