10 Signs You Don’t KNOW What You Really Want

Are you one of the 90% who know what they don’t want, but when asked what do you want have one of several reactions:

  • Tear up because the pain is so deep not knowing
  • Raise your hands and voice in frustration and almost shout, “I don’t know”
  • Hang your head in shame and mutter, “I just don’t know”.

And by now you feel even more embarrassed because at this age, you should know what you want to be when you grow up, which makes the pain even greater.

Top 10 Signs that you don’t know what you really want

  • Being overwhelmed by life
  • Difficulty making decisions
  • Working in a job/business that you don’t love
  • Procrastination
  • Anxiety, depression
  • Feelings of fear, doubt, guilt
  • Dread of people and situations
  • Resentment and criticism (self and others)
  • Emotionally and/or physically drained
  • Tired of being sick and tired

I can totally relate.  I remember a coach asking me years ago, “what do you really want?” and what did I do, I sobbed – did the ugly cry and couldn’t say anything for at least 10 minutes.  The pain was that deep.  For the life of me, I couldn’t figure out what I really wanted. 

I had a great life – loving husband, great kid, nice home, cars, successful career, and 3 cats and a dog!  Who could want anything more, right?  WRONG!  So many people aspire to be like “someone” they can only see from the outside, never realizing on the inside, they aren’t in alignment with what they really want – they can’t even name it.

And then something in our marriage shook me to my core and I chose to reevaluate everything in my life up to that point.  I had lived my life – working in a career that was not me, being there for my family whenever, taking care of my mother-in-law and my mom (which was lovely), but I neglected me and what was most important to me – in other words, I had totally lost myself.

Fast forward years – I have gone from not knowing to not only knowing but owning what I want unapologetically.  And guess what, life is exciting again.  I am living from a place of meaning and purpose and show up sparkling (at least on the inside) everywhere I go.  I got crystal clear on who I am and what I am here to do.  And I choose to live from that place.

Would you like to gain clarity around YOUR “what do I want?” so you can get excited about YOUR life again?

The old cliché – Life is not a dress rehearsal is so true, and the trouble is we think we have time.  And then we wake up – 50, 60, 70 – where did the time go?

Isn’t it time for you to gain clarity around “what do I really want?”

Would you like to be able to answer that question with resounding meaningful responses like,

I want to be in a relationship where I feel free enough to express and have my physical, mental, and emotional desires heard and met

I want to travel to beautiful places and create such beauty in my home

I want to serve my people because XYZ is so important to me

I want to start a business where I have time for me and am serving people from my purpose

I want to be bursting with creativity and enthusiasm for building my business

I want to understand my feelings and emotional outbursts so that I can bring peace and harmony to all my relationships and live a rich, delicious life.

What do you imagine your “I really want …” to be?  (Hint: if you say you just want to lie on a beach for a few months – you are not living from your values.)

If you are so ready to get excited about your life again and ready for the clarity and space to find your purpose and what makes you feel alive,

I invite you to an eye opening and life changing 75 minute virtual workshop where we will together unveil what is hiding deep within you and give you the clarity that you have not had for a long, long time. Message me to be invited to the next workshop.